I wrote a few weeks ago about being done with having children even though several friends are currently on #3 right now. I’m watching them with horror and slight amusement wondering how the HECK are they going to survive? Well, I’m sure they will all do fantastic but that doesn’t mean its for me.
So why am I hedging on getting permanent birth control?
Freaky, right? I’m sure most woman here might agree with me that taking away your choice to have another child is just frightening. Besides the fact that I am extremely lucky to be able to HAVE children, currently three people that are close to me are in the middle of IVF/IUI procedures and two or three more have done that in the past or planning on it in the future. I am lucky, yes. But while I am blessed to be able to have children without any problems at all, I am done. And while I may not want another child the classic ‘What If…’ thought pops in my mind. What if hubby dies and I remarry and want another child? (Hubby didn’t like me pointing that out…) What if, god forbid, there is a tragic accident with our children and we want to have more? No really, it happened to Lori Coble in Ladera Ranch. A tragic, tragic accident. They went and reversed the vasectomy that the husband had completed and now are the proud parents to beautiful triplets.
If my hubby wanted to do it himself, then yes please! Get it done! (This blog is about me, and not about him – sadly, otherwise I would be bitching more about this particular scenario…) But since, apparently it is up to me (see, I can’t resist bitching slightly…) , I don’t want to get it done.
And believe me, we talked about all the possibilities at our doctor appointment yesterday.
Essure – Permanent birth control for woman. Yes, by inserting COILS in your tubes and making scar tissue form to render you sterile. It may be a simple office visit procedure but there are too many frightening aspects for me. Coils. In my body. With the potential to perforate my tubes and float around in my body and attach themselves to various body parts. Scar tissue? Is that really a good idea to force that? Oh, and this has only been available less than five years, so really, how much do we know about this?
IUD – Two different versions of them that both sound a little… ugh.
Mirena – Which has very slight hormones that are released to your uterus. I really hate hormones. I’m convinced they completely screwed with my body a few years ago because when I went off of them, I was much better. Apparently it is just a tiny bit of hormones though and not enough to get into your blood stream to affect you as much as regular birth control. It is making your lining thin so no egg wants to implant. Mirena has only been around for a little over 7 years. Since it lasts five years, there is more documentation as people have already had them taken out (and reinserted again). Good news is that it makes your period almost non-existent (due to the little hormones) which is always a plus.
What about people who have said Mirena makes them gain weight from the hormones? My nurse said she thinks that is an excuse as the amount of hormones is so small. I really need to go compare the amount to know more.
ParaGuard – Has been around for over 20 years. Is copper which, if you have a nickle allergy, pretty much sucks to be you. It’s creating a hostile environment for your uterus, so that normal 6-7 day period you used to have… Yea, that will probably be making it a 9-10 day period and much, much heavier. Fabulous. In some cases it gets better after a few months but there is no guarantee.
By the way, has anyone ever told you how those nice, safe IUDs are inserted? Well, you should be on your period because your cervix has to be a little dilated. Oh, your cervix is to small? Well, don’t worry, we will just dilate that FOR you! For me, since I haven’t had a period for almost 20 months now, that scares me a little.
How bad does it hurt? Well.. you can definitely handle it. Apparently. My nurse said when she was putting one in a friend of hers, her friend said it felt like she was pulling out her belly button from the inside. It doesn’t last long… I mean, all we are doing is opening you up with a speculum (normal pap smear stuff…) but then we have to go in there and measure your cervix (how are you doing that?? Are you shoving a flashlight in there??), open it up a bit, and then fit the IUD in there for you.
Um, yea. I’m a baby with pain.
They have to measure your cervix because a nice little line hangs down (think: fishing line) because you should REALLY check to be sure everything is where it should be about once a month. Oh, don’t worry, just sit on the toilet and fish up in there with your fingers to make sure the line is still there!
Because if it isn’t, well, hopefully that IUD didn’t go up somewhere and perforate your uterus… or get lost… or something. Your husband shouldn’t be able to feel it, either. If he does, just come on into the office and we can keep cutting it to make it shorter!
While it is safer than regular birth control because it takes out possible human error mistakes, my unofficial poll on my baby boards show three people getting preggo while on it. Out of ten. Nice.
Ok, fine. So asking again about birth control gets me a nice show-and-tell about the NuvaRing. Tari, my nurse, just happened to have one hanging off her belt. A ring would be much easier to deal with instead of taking pills every day. Except for the fact that *I* would have to put it up me…. I would also have to take it out after three weeks. Ok, now WHAT? I’m not a prude (I don’t think…) but sticking a ring up in me for a few weeks?? Supposedly it’s ‘only’ an inch and a half up my cervix but if I am able to reach up there and take it out, what is going on during sex? Is he bumping into it? Ugh? (I didn’t ask that question, btw. I just know there is no way I’m going to push something up in me and go fishing for it again in three weeks. No thanks.)
The Depo-Provera shot is available but unlike the Mirena, the shot is actually proven to make you gain about 8 pounds a year. Who likes that?
Going back to permanent birth control, I did find out that my doctor still does the regular tubal. Going under anesthesia sounds fantastic to me. I love being put under. I’ve only done it one time before but hey, it was awesome. Count backwards from ten, three counts later I’m gone, and I wake up to yummy fizzy seven-up a few seconds later.
Just the thought of doing that makes my stomach twist up though. I feel sick and panicky. Maybe in a few years I’ll feel ready for that but I am not ready now. I feel the same sort of anxious feeling when thinking about getting the IUD in me as well. Is it fear of pain? Possibly.
I went with the no-pain version for now. I got birth control pills, even though I am a little bit worried about synthetic hormones and all the studies continually being done about them and how they affected me a few years ago. It will make me get my period if I want to, although I plan to take them continuously to not get a period. Maybe in a few months I will feel ready to get an IUD. In a few years, maybe I will be ready to do something more permanent.
Anyone else in this boat? What did you decide to do?